I was musing on the idea to write a small yet ample intro about myself. Although I have no clue where to start, I can still postulate that my past can be compared to the Hellenistic world. I had a cosmopolitan view of my surroundings, black and white were starkly juxtaposed with colored images. As much as I thought that I was united with this cultural landscape, I was very much an alienated angst-ridden 20 years old woman, struggling to find a solid ground for her ideas, emotions, and dreams.
Emerging from a shattered home, enduring many broken relationships, becoming demoralized, those were the main ingredients of a life full of disappointments. However, by all accounts, this environment has created in me, an inner skirmish over raising the white flag or raging a war. Thus, from where I stand now, I have been having the privilege to celebrate the triumph through which I learned many lessons and I structured the shape of the woman I am today.
I’ve been writing for Curacao Chronicle for years, about tech to politics, did much research, until I decided that it is the momentum to start a new column, that has nothing to do with negativity, bad economy or health problems. It tackles mainly what women think, what they like & dislike and all other related matters to their wellbeing, desires, and craziness, with a bit of humor which is going to be far of being antagonistic or degrading. Women may have more appreciation for sentimental comedy and prefer friendly humor while men are more inclined to like humor that is overtly sexual and shocking!
Out of my past experiences and other women’s secret confessions, there will be hot topics to discuss. Topics such as their notion about “Men” in general, the idea of them being too complicated, some hilarious advice about love, sex, tricks and treats, and many other paraphernalia.
While writing this column, I felt a bit down for no specific reason, maybe hormones or maybe the end of a tiresome week, and a question popped up. If I had a man in my life hypothetically, without codifying him as “partner”, “lover” or “husband”, what are my expectations from him in a situation like that? And yes, I do set some expectations in a serious relationship with whatever helm is being used for steering. Do I want him by my side just to nag not knowing what is wrong with me? I am aware that most men are in favor of a very short description of what’s wrong, instead, they habitually hear the expressions of “Nevermind”, “everything is wrong”, “hmmm”, “I deserve better”, “are you tired of listening?” And after an hour of elaborating comes the announcement:”Nothing, forget it!” If the man really get tired and leave the room we end up with mumbles like: “don’t talk to me ever” or “get out of here”, or simply the word “Fine” that has so many meanings!
The equation for me is so simple, if a woman needs attention she should ask for it if she needs to talk, the man has to grant her the space, and if she becomes bitchy at the end, love can conquer all. And if a man fails to do all 3, no sweat, go look for another. Is it too realistic, idealistic, impracticable? It makes me wonder how many survivors are out there from such an argument!
Women are not complicated. We need better and clear understanding and upstanding communication, to foster a durable relationship. Of course, “affectionate” is also an important adjective, which involves sex, but I leave it for the next time in my upcoming Thursday column. Finally, they say Monday is the worst day of the week, it shows how much the mind can be a slave to the body after a long weekend. To all working women who have a male presence in the house, let us start the day with “I love you” and “somewhere nearby there is 50% discount”.
I will be having a platform on Facebook page for interactions and comments, and a twitter account for followers. © ReinaSankari 2020
Twitter: @Reina Sankari
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